Great news!!
After hours of brainstorming (mostly on my 5 hour flight from Philadelphia to LA), I finally cracked the case of how I can move in with Jose and leave my mom relatively unscathed:
If I just move some of my bills around and drop stuff I don't need, I can round up the extra $250 my mom needs to pay the rent on her own. It's simple and easy: give up cable/satellite, get a dirt cheap internet connection, stop going to the gym, reduce my IRA payment to $25 a month and continue on Jose's family cell phone plane, I have more than enough money to give my mom. I just consolidate all my bills into one big savings a month and then silently transfer that to my mom. And it's not like I'll be starving for money, these are bills I was already paying with no problem. Now I'll just have one "mom bill" a month and I'll help her out, thus feeling guilt free about living with Jose.
We presented the idea to my mom on Sunday night at the dining room table. We were both really nervous. I laid out the entire plan and showed her all the savings and how we could help her be independent whilst we progressed in our relationship. At first she was a little hesitant but as we explained it all, she seemed to agree. By the end of our conversation, she was good with our idea but made sure to let me know that she wasn't trying to ruin our plans or stand in our way.....it's just things didn't work out with her man friend, not in the way she had hoped. She also didn't want to cramp our lifestyle and the things we are used to either. I told her these things (gym, cable, etc.) are just luxuries and I don't need them at all. I need Jose and I need her to be okay. That must have been the selling point.
Sooooo....the apartment/house search is back on! Soon as I come back from Vegas early next month and get that expense out of the way (which shouldn't be bad at all), we're hitting the ground running again. I hope and pray we find something decent and affordable so that by our second anniversary, we are living together!!!
Step by step, it's all coming true!!! :D
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